Therapy Style:

Therapy with me is being the person beside you while you face what you’ve been avoiding and rebuild who you are.

I work at the intersection of depth psychology, trauma healing, and identity reconstruction. I specialize in people who look strong on the outside but feel lost, overwhelmed, or burned out on the inside.

I have developed a process for individual and couples therapy that allows deeper introspection

My Style is Radical Compassion: honest, direct, and steady. I track patterns, challenge the beliefs holding you back, and stay with you through the discomfort instead of backing away.

In session, expect real conversation. We slow down, map your story, uncover the deeper architecture shaping your choices, and then change it in ways that actually last.

Individual Therapy Process:


Phase One: Mapping and Stabilization
The first phase is about understanding how you function, not fixing you. We slow things down and map your internal world: how you see yourself, how you relate to others, and how you interpret the world.

What to Expect:
Targeted questioning to understand patterns and core beliefs

Reflection of emotional and relational themes

Slowing down reactivity and increasing emotional awareness

Building basic regulation and grounding skills when needed

What is Experienced:
Feeling seen and understood in a deeper way

Increased clarity around your patterns and emotional responses

A steady, supportive pace without pressure to “fix” anything yet

A strong foundation for deeper work and insights on core issues.

The Goal: Clarity and safety. Therapy cannot go deep if your nervous system is constantly on edge or if we don’t understand what we’re actually working with.

Phase Two: Deconstruction and Challenge:
This phase is about identifying and dismantling the beliefs, defenses, and emotional patterns that keep repeating, even when you logically “know better”. This is where we challenge contradictions, avoidance, self-betrayal, and outdated survival strategies with honesty and precision.

What to Expect:
Direct and respectful challenges to assumptions and avoidance

Identification of defense mechanisms and coping patterns

Parts dialogue and belief testing

Real-time work with emotions as they show up in session

What is Experienced:
Discomfort, resistance, or emotional intensity at times

Increased insight paired with emotional activation

Breakthroughs that come from honest confrontation, not reassurance

The Goal: This is not to break you down, but to loosen the grip of patterns that once protected you and are now costing you relationships, peace, or direction.


Phase Three: Reconstruction and Integration
This phase is about building something that actually holds. We integrate insight into real-world behavior, relationships, and self-trust. We focus on alignment, emotional regulation, and internal consistency.

What is Experienced:
Practicing new responses to old triggers

Strengthening emotional regulation and boundaries

Translating insight into real-world behavior

Preparing intentionally for the end of therapy

What is Gained:
Greater internal stability and confidence

Less emotional chaos and more clarity in decision-making

Therapy shifting from exploration to application

A sense of completion rather than dependence

The Goal: This is not to break you down, but to loosen the grip of patterns that once protected you and are now costing you relationships, peace, or direction.

Couples Therapy Process:


Phase One: Communication and Pattern Awareness
We start by making the invisible visible. Most couples don’t have a “communication problem,” they have unexamined patterns.

We identify how you talk, fight, avoid, escalate, or shut down. This phase focuses on slowing interactions, reducing defensiveness, and creating enough safety for honest conversation.

The goal is stabilization. Without this, deeper work turns into emotional chaos or performative vulnerability. This phase is for couples stuck in the same fights, walking on eggshells, or feeling unheard and misunderstood.

What is Gained:

  • Slowing down conversations to reduce escalation

  • Identifying cycles of interaction (pursue, withdraw, defend, shut down)

  • Practicing clearer, less reactive communication

  • Learning how tone, timing, and delivery impact connection


Phase Two: Conflict Styles and Protective Strategies
Once communication improves, we examine what actually happens under stress. Who pursues, who withdraws, who controls, who collapses.

We look at defense mechanisms, emotional regulation, and how each partner learned to survive conflict long before this relationship existed.

The goal is ownership. Not blame, not fairness, but understanding how each person contributes to the cycle. This phase reduces reactivity and shifts conflict from destructive to reparative.

What is Gained:

  • Identifying individual conflict styles and defense mechanisms

  • Exploring how past relationships and family systems shaped these responses

  • Taking ownership of emotional impact without blame

  • Learning how to interrupt destructive cycles in real time


Phase Three: Attachment Wounds and Unmet Needs
This is the core emotional work. We identify the deeper fears and needs driving the relationship: abandonment, rejection, inadequacy, loss of control.

We explore how past attachment experiences are shaping present expectations and behaviors. Vulnerability increases here, but it’s structured and contained.

The goal is emotional truth, not emotional flooding. This phase is for couples who want intimacy, not just peace.

What is Gained:

  • Identifying individual conflict styles and defense mechanisms

  • Exploring how past relationships and family systems shaped these responses

  • Taking ownership of emotional impact without blame

  • Learning how to interrupt destructive cycles in real time

Phase Four: Repair, Reconnection, and Forward Design
The final phase focuses on rebuilding trust, closeness, and shared meaning.

We work on repairing past injuries, strengthening emotional and physical intimacy, and creating new relational rituals that support long-term connection.

The goal is not a perfect relationship, but a resilient one. One that can handle conflict, stress, and change without falling apart.

What is Gained:

  • Repairing past hurts and breaches of trust.

  • Strengthening emotional and physical intimacy

  • Creating shared rituals, values, and agreements

  • Developing tools for future conflict and stress